"No one becomes independent alone. Even the Lone Ranger had Tanto & Silver." -Sylvia
We like the myth of the self-made wo/man. But it is...
March 1, 2015
How we talk to ourselves matters a lot, especially when we are struggling. If my message to myself is "this is all I can do", it may decrease my mot...
February 18, 2015
"Be who you are and say what you feel; people who mind don't matter and people who matter don't mind." Dr. Seuss
Learning to express our thoughts, fe...
March 3, 2015
May 6, 2015
"I worry that I worry too much."
The seductive quality of worry is that it feels like we are doing something, that we are actively engaging the situation, taking responsibility. It feels like problem-solving; that if we worry "enough" or worry "right", we can influence the outcome. At its core, worry is a response to a perceived threat. Wheather the threat is that something will or won't happen, the threat is very, very important. If we have developed a worry habit, not worrying feels like being irresponsible. What we actually experience is that worry saps our mental, emotional, and physical resources. It reduces our ability to be effective, move toward our goals, and live by our values. One good strategy for reducing worry is to replace worry thoughts with gratitude thoughts. Gratitude is a response to a perceived resource. A habit of gratitude builds our psychological resilience.
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